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Have you ever met someone who typically classifies themselves as honest, outspoken, and kind? Why is it that they are usually rude, obnoxious, and opinionated to a fault?

It's like they thrive off of drama. The people I'm talking about think it is their god given duty to tell you everything they think you are doing wrong. Never mind that they are hypocritical to a fault, though. The only thing that matters is what is wrong with everyone else.

I've learned a long time ago that it's next to pointless to give people a harsh critique about what they are doing wrong, or to give people advice that they don't want to hear. It rarely does good to tell someone that they are doing something wrong when they know that they are doing something wrong. Closer to the point, people tend to resent comments that are critical of their behavior, and therefore can easily change the nature of a relationship..

Some people can't understand this. They don't understand the fine line between helpful and rude, nor the difference between their opinion and the truth. There are things in life that we can feel very strongly about, and they are still just our opinions on what is right, and what the truth is. For me, it is very important to understand this. If Hitler had understood that his opinions about the truth and his opinions were two different things, there wouldn't have been a Holocaust.

Have you ever had someone tell you everything they think is wrong with you? These people tend to think that calling what they say "the truth" and saying "the truth hurts" makes what they say more truthful, but it doesn't. The truth is rarely what we think it is, and passing on the truth is nothing short of troublesome. Someone could hand each one of us the absolute truth, and the only thing certain would be our ability to misinterpret it. But, the truth isn't what these people are trying to convey in the first place.

I say there is only one way to help someone see his or her own behavior for what it is. You let them figure it out for themselves while gently showing them that they aren't making the right choices. You don't tell them that everything they are doing is evil and that they are never going to make it to the afterlife, because frankly none of us can understand what happens when we die. A lot of people think they know how to walk the straight and narrow path so well that they elevate themselves above everyone else. From that vantage point, they think they can judge everyone while no longer focusing on themselves.

It happens to all people who forget how to be humble; who forget humility, and forget that no one can be without faults. Being judgmental is a lack of understanding between people, a lack of insight into how one person's words affect another person's feelings, and above all it is a fault that we all fall prey to under the right circumstances.

If someone, for example, is completely ruining their lives, there are certain steps to approaching the situation. First, we should understand that just because we think someone is ruining his or her lives doesn't mean much. It is not that the person is ruining their life, but that the person isn't fulfilling our expectations. Second, we should not be angry towards the person we are supposed to be concerned for. If you are going to approach someone about their actions you should understand that if you are angry with them, they have the right to be angry back. Third, don't come right out and accuse the person of things. If you are concerned, be concerned. Ask about how they are doing, question them about the area of their life that concerns you, and ask them questions to get them to think about what they are going. The only way to get someone to be concerned about themselves is if they come to the conclusion that they need to change with as little outside interference as possible.

Have you ever known a person that had a knack for telling everyone what his or her problems are?

Or are you that type of person yourself?